I’m so sick of everyone around me pretending like they know exactly what I’m going through and exactly what I need to do to get pregnant! Since when are they experts?
My best friend has FOUR children. Two of them are twins. What the heck does she know about infertility? My husband’s aunt, she did have to get pregnant in vitro, but only because she was having other health issues that caused her to be unable to get pregnant naturally on her own. For one, she was so fat that the doctors made her lose 30 pounds before they would even LET her undergo in vitro treatments. As far as my doctor can tell, I’m completely healthy. There is no obvious reason that I am not getting pregnant, without going through the testing and all the expensive procedures. And yet, his aunt feels it necessary to tell me that I’m not elevating my rear end enough during intercourse, my husband needs to stop taking baths, I should go on a diet, and if I really wanted a baby I would get a better job to help pay for medical costs. This, from a woman who has never had a job a single day in her life!
What REALLY gets to me is when people say hurtful things for apparently no reason at all. For instance, my sister-in-law (SIL), who is five years younger than me, just had a baby a few weeks ago. Her mother-in-law has done everything she can to alienate my SIL from my husband’s entire family since the day her son married her! She makes it a point to rub it in my mother-in-law’s face that she is already retired and has TONS of time to spend with the baby and my SIL & BIL. She is a domestic goddess and has no qualms about telling everyone how perfect she is. She makes professional cakes, is a photographer, sews, crochets, knits, milks her own cows, grows her own vegetables.. You get the point…
When my SIL went in to have the baby, this woman wedged herself between my MIL and the hospital bed so that she could hold her hand through contractions. My MIL was very left out during labor. Then, after labor, my SIL was asking me (because I’ve been a birthing coach three times) some questions about post-natal care for herself and I was explaining what my friends and family have experienced. Her mother-in-law piped up and said, “Well, you don’t really know until you’ve actually had a baby.” I wanted to KILL her!
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