I feel like M has lost all respect for me as his wife. I’m hoping it’s just a phase, but I really don’t know. Since I “quit” my job in April, he has gradually started doing things that, to me, seem disrespectful. My sister, S, and her son, G, live with us. Until I quit working, she didn’t have a job. To “earn her keep” she was basically in charge of the general upkeep of the house. Around the same time I quit working she got a job and she hasn’t done much around the house ever since, even though she only works part-time. She does dishes or takes the trash out maybe once every other week. I’m pretty much solely responsible for the upkeep of the house because she won’t help, and M acts like it’s my responsibility since I’m not working. I can kind of understand that, but I was still doing some chores even when I was working two jobs and going to school full-time, even when S was supposed to be doing it. Now that the tables are turned, not only am I responsible for the entire house and the kids, but M acts like I should have to clean up after everyone too, especially him. I can see cleaning up after G. He’s only three years old, but I shouldn’t have to clean up after M, S, and SJ. They’re all old enough to clean up after themselves. M leaves trash lying around. He’ll even lay it on the counter next to the trash closet, as if he’s incapable of opening the door to the closet and tossing it in the trash. He’ll leave his dirty plate with food still on it sitting next to the sink! He just started doing all of this out of nowhere in the last several weeks and I don’t know how to react. When I tell him he’s being disrespectful, he acts like he has no idea what I’m talking about.
The other thing that I’ve noticed is that he’s been leaving a lot of the spending to me. I have no income. I only have the savings. I just don’t know what to do.