OK. I have to admit it’s kind of nice now that M knows about the blog. He is a very private person, so I know he doesn’t want me sharing his “business” online, so I will try my best to leave him out of my one-sided conversations when I can, but at this point, this is still my only real source of support concerning my infertility so I just can’t bring myself to let it go and I know that M understands that I need a place I can go for IF support. Now that he knows about it, I feel a little liberated, and maybe through the blog I will be able to explain things in a way that I may not be able to in other ways.
Even though IF is fairly common (more so than I realized), it’s not like there ‘s someone on every other street corner willing to talk about it. At least here no one knows who I am and I have never met any of you either. It makes it so much easier to be candid (and sometimes a little blunt) about how I’m feeling. I NEED that, and I have no problem whatsoever with M reading (and even editing) my blog. But I really do need to maintain this source of support, so I’m going to keep blogging throughout my journey, or until I just run out of things to say…. I know when M reads that particular comment that he will know at that point that I will probably have this blog until I die because I never run out of things to say! Haha!
I came to the blog today because I’m having a really bad day and the blog always seems to lift my spirits. I particularly enjoy reading Jackie, Autumn, and Rain’s blogs/comments because they always remind me that I’m not alone and that there are women out there who are happy with their lives, despite IF.
My shipment of BeeFertile should be here any day now. Even though things have been rocky lately, I’m still excited. And I’m not even excited for the reasons I thought I would be. Mostly, I’m excited for the change. I’m excited to be doing something, anything that could improve my chances of having a baby someday, even if it’s not right away. And I’ve been doing even MORE research on the ingredients and they seem to be beneficial in so many other ways, besides the fertility benefits. This is one of my main sources of enthusiasm. I’m looking forward to the “unintended” benefits of the extra vitamins, minerals, and nutrients. The truth is, I’ve had “female” problems for so long, and my doctor has said a million times that I should look into natural ways to help take care of some of those issues. I honestly believe that the issues I’ve been facing are a contributing factor to our IF, although my doctor hasn’t ever truly agreed with me on that point. I know that a lot of the ingredients in BeeFertile are beneficial for overall women’s health, so that is a strong motivator for me right now, in addition to the intended benefits.
In the last week, I have also come to terms with the fact that a pregnancy is probably not in my very near future. As you all know, IF takes a huge toll on relationships, not just the relationship with your partner but also your relationships with your friends/family. As I have discovered, it even screws with the relationships I have with my co–workers (like the moody bundle of pregnant hormones I work with right now). In light of this, I have had to sort of find my center and come to terms with the fact that it could be years before we have a baby and maybe, just maybe, we won’t have a baby at all. I’m not okay with that. Don’t get me wrong. I haven’t given up, but I’m less stressed about it, for the meantime at least. I have to be, because it was starting to take a major toll on my relationships. I still want a baby with everything that is within me. I don’t go a single moment in my day without thinking about how badly I want to be a mother, but I’ll be okay if it doesn’t happen for another year or two.
The plan, for now, is to start with the 90-day BeeFertile kit. After that, I told M that if he doesn’t like it he doesn’t have to do it, but I want to keep doing it myself. It will take some grand financial scheming on my part, because money is pretty tight right now, but even if we took a break on “trying” and just chose to “relax” for a while (like everyone keeps telling me to do), I think I would still want to take it. If for nothing else, I believe it can’t possibly hurt to improve my reproductive health, because I really do want to have children and there’s no harm in doing everything I can to insure that my body is ready for it when/if we do get pregnant. Think of all the women who accidentally became pregnant and their bodies were just as unprepared as they were. We don’t use any birth control whatsoever. There’s nothing that says we might not get pregnant by “accident”, and if we are so blessed with a “happy accident” I want to be prepared.
And by the way, people who tell couples facing IF to “just relax” are just ignorant! I really want to clamp jumper cables onto their asses and tell them to “just relax”.